Monday, March 31, 2008

Not Again

I was once hurt pretty badly by someone. A friend I shared so much with and I parted ways. It was tough. Then the friend came back around, I missed the friend so I forgave the hurt. Friend and I started sharing again.

But what do you do when the friend is doing exactly the same thing that hurt you before in the past? Do you just try to brush it off? Or do you cut off the opportunity to be hurt again before it happens?

I'm not doing this again and it's hard. It means I have to be firm in my resolve. I can't think happy thoughts because that will only allow me to be hurt at the end of the day. It's tough but I think the alternative is tougher.


Anonymous said...

If she's already hurt you once and it looks like things are headed in the same direction, save yourself while you can.

Lawfrog said...

I agree with littlesunshine on this one. That's the beauty of prevents us from making the same mistake again.

I'm sorry this is happening again with your friend. I know how hard this can be. Been there, done that.

Erin said...

I've been in the same situation where a lifelong friend hurt me really badly, after I'd done so much for and been there for her...I cut ties with her. One day out of the blue she called me and I just happened to be about 16 wks pregnant and she was really excited. We talked things over and she apologized and we decided to start things over again. Now a few years later she's headed down the same path she went down does hurt a little, but I'm not investing myself in our friendship anymore so I'm not getting hurt like last time. It's sad, but it's her loss.

I'm sorry you're having to go through something similar. I can only say I know how you feel.

Shannon said...

hey there...
i've never commented on your blog fact i just found it over at dream mom's blog not long ago and am still reading your entire blog a bit at a time...anyhow i wanted to comment on this because i just went through something similar myself.

a couple of girls i have known half my life crept back into my world about a year ago and i decided to "forgive and forget" all they had put me through and welcomed them back into my life.
after a bit of time went by i took notice to how they treated other people and decided to put a bit of distance between myself and them and just see how things evolved. no biggie right??
they took that as an opportunity to bad mouth me, try to cause problems with other friends and a host of other very juvenile things.
i was VERY happy i backed off when i did. it was obvious that it was only a matter of time before they screwed me again.
sounds like quite the high school drama right??
sadly i'm in my late 20's and they are in their 30's.

so becareful. if the sign's are already surfacing then it may be best to just wash your hands of the friendship altogether.

i wish you luck in whatever you decide.