Monday, May 12, 2008


I've been asked to write a letter. This letter will hopefully reach out to a man who has deserted his son and wants nothing to do with him. This letter will ask that he do the right thing and sit down one time with this young man who is coming of age and is struggling to find himself.

But how do you write this? How do you tell this man you understand his fear, his detachment, his hesitation, when you can barely contemplate it? How do you put into words that he at least owes this to his own flesh and blood without pushing him away and watching him refuse simply because he can? What words can convey just how important it is that he be a real man for once in his life and do the right thing?

Screw my college thesis and research papers. This is going to be one of the most difficult and most important letters I will ever put to paper. My mind opens and the words flow only to stall out and stutter. My best isn't enough, I need perfection.

I want to write something that will melt his heart and move him in such a way that he will see just how life changing this can be for his son. He doesn't have to be a part of his life. He doesn't have to see him again. All he has to do is give this young boy closure and let him know it's not his fault, he didn't do anything wrong, just sometimes people make choices that hurt others.

Please let me convince him, please let me find the right words.