Tuesday, June 2, 2009

Shhhh! I won't tell if you won't...

Technically, I'm breaking a counselor rule here. I'm not supposed to discuss my Mother or the things going on with her. I'm supposed to journal "privately"...but where is the fun in that??

So...two weeks ago Jimbo and I flew out to Colorado Springs for business. It was a trip for his company, and aside from a plane ticket, it was free. It was the first time we've been alone like this in 5 years (since Logan was born) and we couldn't wait. We arrived ready to relax and immerse ourselves in one another.

Oh, and we were also there for something else - to make a solid decision and time frame on when we would re-involve ourselves with my Mom.

Then it happened...

On the second day of the trip, Tuesday to be exact, we got the call from his Mother who was staying at our home to babysit the children. My Mother got an attorney and were were "served". She's suing us for grandparent visitation.

There is a TON going on right now, as you can probably imagine. She has refused time and time again to give me time to deal with the emotional aspects of what she's done, refused to give me space to find common ground. Instead she's chosen to proceed as she always does - as SHE wants.

It's actually sad but fitting that she chose to do this. Jimbo said she was walking the line and if she tried something like this, he was done with her. While she's my Mother, she put this upon herself. We didn't start this, ask for this, or encourage this - but we will see it to fruition.

We have an attorney and she should have gotten the news by now - we fully intend to fight her in court.

It's a mess, a heartbreaking one, and something that never had to happen.


Blessed said...

Ah, so sad. But it sounds like she is imcapable of any self-reflection or self-restraint. It is only going to hurt her in the end, but she can't see it. Ugh, I am SO sorry that had to happen in the middle of your trip--but you know, of course, that the timing was not accidental. I will be praying for peace for you and Jimbo, seriously.

Blessed said...

P.S. I highly respect your counselor telling you to blog privately--that really makes sense and places a healthy boundary around your feelings, and your mom's privacy too. BUT there is a time and place for sharing your suffering within a community who cares about you--and this is a great place for it!

Susan said...


I'm glad to see you back to blogging but I hate to hear this is going on! I can only imagine the turmoil within you and stress in dealing with this case. I am SO SORRY! Ugh!

p.s. I hope you were here when we were having nice weather - it has been 40's and rainy as of late!

Jaime said...

Blessed and Susan,

Thank you both so much and yes Susan, the weather was LOVELY. I loved it there. If I weren't directionally challenged, I could have seen if we could have met during my adventure.

You live in a beautiful place. I didn't want to leave. ;)

Tania said...

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this now! I was hoping she got a hint and was going to leave you be until you went to her. **HUGS**

Spook, RN said...

I'm so sorry Jamie! Sucks when your own parent ends up being a saboteur...

Stay frosty! If you need an ear or a shoulder, ya know where to yell! :-)